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Friends of Friends

I love discovering mutual connections on Facebook. One of my college roommates married the cousin of a friend I met many years later, which I discovered when I commented on a post by one of them, and the other said, "Hey, how do you know...?" It's already delightful knowing them, but it creates a fun friendship triangle, somehow making our connection feel deeper. 

Someone in my neighborhood asked about a singing instructor, and since my girls are musical I looked up one of the people mentioned over and over in case we decide someday that voice lessons would be a good idea. She was friends with so many people in different circles of mine that I wanted to send her a message and say, hey, we're not currently friends, but apparently we should be because we like a LOT of the same people. Turns out she'd grown up in my current neighborhood and helped with a play one of my daughters was in (while I was helping with a different play). I briefly met her, but not enough to attach a name.

They say you're a product of the ten people you hang around the most, and while Facebook doesn't tell me who they hang out with, seeing those friends connections still recommends them in a way. These people like you, well then I think I would too. Can we also be friends?

Not that I'm a crazy Facebook friend gatherer, but someone did tell me once that I'm a gatherer. I appreciatedher pointing that out. I like knowing who people are, and I've been in situations when I would have appreciated being gathered in to feel more comfortable. It's simple to invite someone new to sit by you, or offer to answer questions and give assistance as needed. People love feeling noticed and cared about, creating heart connections. Those are much deeper than just knowing the same people.

Hey, do we have any of the same friends?

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